reshaping the holidays
I am tired of this idea that the holidays are -supposed- to be stressful.
they're not.
at all.
I think more of us need to learn to let go of expectations and learn how to say "no" to things we don't want to do.
Yes, we all have obligations and have to do things we don't want to do sometimes, but we CAN limit those things, and we can compromise, too.
What is the point of the holidays if we can't do the things we want to do, the things that make us happy?
While the holidays are about spending time with family for some, it doesn't always have to be if that's not what you want.
Some of us have toxic families, and sometimes they become even more toxic around the holidays.
The holidays are a time that we should all have a right to enjoy, and if that means avoiding the people that cause that holiday stress, then so be it. Turn your phones on silent, block their number, do what you have to do. Take the time to set them aside and say "hey, I have a lot going on and I want a quiet holiday this year"
they will find a way to deal, I promise. And you can compromise. Say you'll come by soon, and actually mean it.
you also don't have to buy abunch of pointless crap.
I'll let this link do the talking about that for me though, I highly recommend reading if you're someone who gets stressed about holiday gift giving and think it's a capitalist ploy to make boatloads of profit
https://sheinthewoods.com/sheinthewoods-blog/meaningfulgiftgiving
they're not.
at all.
I think more of us need to learn to let go of expectations and learn how to say "no" to things we don't want to do.
Yes, we all have obligations and have to do things we don't want to do sometimes, but we CAN limit those things, and we can compromise, too.
What is the point of the holidays if we can't do the things we want to do, the things that make us happy?
While the holidays are about spending time with family for some, it doesn't always have to be if that's not what you want.
Some of us have toxic families, and sometimes they become even more toxic around the holidays.
The holidays are a time that we should all have a right to enjoy, and if that means avoiding the people that cause that holiday stress, then so be it. Turn your phones on silent, block their number, do what you have to do. Take the time to set them aside and say "hey, I have a lot going on and I want a quiet holiday this year"
they will find a way to deal, I promise. And you can compromise. Say you'll come by soon, and actually mean it.
you also don't have to buy abunch of pointless crap.
I'll let this link do the talking about that for me though, I highly recommend reading if you're someone who gets stressed about holiday gift giving and think it's a capitalist ploy to make boatloads of profit
https://sheinthewoods.com/sheinthewoods-blog/meaningfulgiftgiving
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